Self-emptying—letting go

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Today begins Holy Week and the recollection of the last days of Jesus of Nazareth. Some years after the death of Jesus St. Paul reflected, "Let this mind be in you that was in Christ Jesus ... who emptied himself ..." The framers of the lectionary readings for the Sundays of the year chose this passage to mark the beginning of Holy Week. We can infer that in their minds the self-emptying of the Christ is a fitting reading for a recollection of how he died.
In some respects this self-emtying might be a leitmotif was the life of Jesus. He was one who emptied himself. In the history of Christian theology this simple statement has caused much controversy. In large part, the controversy related to how Jesus, who was considered God, could empty himself of divinity and what that might mean. It raged in the controversies of the early church when Christian theologians tried to make sense of Jesus as human and divine. The debate was long and complex and I don't want to enter into it here. Whatever this kenosis meant, in all readings it is about taking a lower position than expected, or leaving a position that one has a right to.
Of interest to me, as I read again of Jesus's self-emptying, was how this might be exemplary for spiritual life. What would it mean, not just for Jesus, but for anyone—for me—to be "self-emptied"?
Three seed-thoughts:
First, self-emptying is intentional. It is not having the self taken away from us, but to intentionally empty the self. Intentionality—making choices—is a key element if spirituality.
Second, self-emptying is to let go of control—to let go of being in control, of controlling situations, and of controlling other people.
Third, self-emptying is to choose not be be first, not to be preeminent, not to be number one—to choose to be subordinate, to choose the lower place.
To empty the self is scary and risky: what if there is nothing left when the self is emptied? It is also, perhaps, foolish: if I don't stand up for myself, then who will? I will get walked over! I may be misunderstood, taken advantage of. My reputation might suffer.
To what purpose?
St. Paul asserts that it was because of Jesus's self-emptying that God exalted Jesus and gave him a name above every other name. This is a kind of equation. Empty yourself now, and you will be filled later. 
One reading of this would be to suggest that power and influence will be yours, if you deliberately subordinate yourself now. In other words, self-emptying is another form of self-aggrandizement—only subtly so! You can take a lower position now because you know that in doing so you will be given a higher position later. That doesn't feel right.
Rather don't choose self-emptying to become great, but because self-emptying is the Way. To choose subordination has ever been the path of the sage or the mystic.
Further, self-emptying is for the sake of the Other. The self is subordinated for love's sake. The kenosis of the Christ is God's self emptied in incarnation. The high becomes the low for the sake of the Other. The Other is preferred above the self.
It may be that the whole evolutionary process of creation is the self-emptying of God for the sake of the world.
As I pondered this, my immediate response was how counter-cultural the notion of self-emptying is. "Let this mind be in you ..." is to swim against a very strong current. But St. Paul was right in highlighting the mind in the process. Intentionality is first about what we think, the way we think. It is a "setting the mind." More than any culture before us we are obsessed with finding the self, developing the self, promoting the self, and with asserting our own rights. From the youngest age we teach our children to be competitive, to get an edge, to move ahead of the other kids. It has made parenting a ceaseless round of activities and expense just to make sure your kids don't lag behind the others. Much in the world of work is about self-promotion, making yourself stand out from the crowd.
Perhaps, it is time to get off the merry-go-round—set the mind in a different direction.
+Ab. Andy